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Miracles Work From The Inside Out

Our most confusing and challenging times can also present the greatest opportunity for change.

In the heat of the struggle all of our fears, anxieties, and judgments come out. This heat can become a fire of great transformation in which we rise to forge a new vision for our Self and life journey. We may have to revisit our wants and desires and address the barriers standing in the way. Within this process of re-visioning our life we will discover an infinite number of variables that are entirely outside of our control. But creating a new vision is like investing in a dream. It requires that we take incredible risks and commit anyway. We have to be able to two things well here, and that’s both let go of the life we lived, surrendering, and forgiving ourselves and others along the way; AND leap courageously into a yawning unknown. This freaky space is the space where our miracle is waiting to be born. While we can’t control everything, we can change the entire dynamic of our life by stepping boldly into the unknown naked and propelled by our truth. Here we’re able to align with the forces working for our highest good. We can attract that which is truly meant for us. We embody the miracle, and buzz with its magical wiggly stuff. It’s more that we become more of what’s needed to align with our heart’s deepest desires. We’re free to be. But when we’re facing difficulties it may be hard to stay in the miracle. We must learn to manage all the pain that’s attached to old wounds, unfit beliefs, and crappy messages. But this too is a gift as through the struggle we get the opportunity to face and set our limitations free- forever.

So, know if you’re in a struggle today, I’m sending you love and light. Breath through the struggle, like literally, and by seeing the good beyond it. Remind yourself that you are in a sacred space of renewal. And know that somewhere on the other side your miracle is waiting to give you a great big bear hug!

Letting Go Is An Act of Respect

I sat with this one for awhile before I pushed go.

I think one of the harder steps I’ve had to take in my own life journey is to learn to let go. Every bone in my body vibrates saying, “help others, serve, share,and hold the light up!” And if they can’t do it for themselves, do it for them!” Probably because I’ve felt this need to have a rescuer so powerfully too. However I’ve come to see it’s not my job to do that for others. As a partner, healer, Creator, and human being.  My job is to do my damnedest to hold the right space for others to discover who they want to be. Letting go of the idea that others are helpless to create the change they need is an act of respect. By doing so I honor the Creator within myself and them. So, in a sense, letting go is a sacred agreement. It’s the space where allow the possibility for healing and a real collaboration can begin.

When we meet as equals we are within our strength. We open to the gate for re-connection, new adventures, and the dance of love to grow -if it’s meant to be. We can learn, listen, prepare, and then leap into the changes that are needed. If no change can be made, we respect that too. Why? Because allowing is the space where true love grows. And all souls are here to grow.

So practice the art of just being today. And let others be as well. And do you best to hold a space of love and respect.

The Authenticity Trap: the art of staying true and serving others at the same time

So, I’ve struggled at times to walk this fine balance between authenticity and service. Have any of you had this issue? One one side you hear the message, “Be authentic. Don’t compromise, follow your heart’s true desire and never give up on living your dream!”  And on the other it’s “Serve! Don’t be selfish, commit to caring and creating value for others. You don’t have to do anything special, just learn to listen and fill the gaps. Give and you shall receive.”

This can lead to some serious soul-grinding along the way. However, as I’ve come along I’ve discovered there is a way to free yourself from this seeming paradox.

First, it’s helpful to realize whether you’re serving yourself or others, there’s no one right way. There’s only “ways.” By taking the time to examine the space between these two approaches we can get some answers for ourselves. Others have referred to this approach as a “middle way, the narrow path, or the “road less traveled. However, I like to call it integrity.  Lets see if I can help make sense of this.

I’d suggest a first step at understanding these two approaches is to start looking at their similarities. If we wade in comparing differences, we’re headed for a long walk in dark woods. Unfortunately, this is where the bulk of the self-help and success literature falls. We often pit one way of life against the other, service-to-self vs service-to-other. Lots of books get sold this way. The truth is whether you’re serving yourself or others, the process of growth looks the same.

How’s so?…

Each requires; asking, listening, adapting, and then giving. Giving, as well as sharing, are essentially actions. These are the fundamentals needed to grow and make progress, or find fulfillment. Let’s break these down by looking at service-to-self first.

Ask

Typically, for those that see themselves on a spiritual journey, or the “the road to authenticity,” this process begins by turning inward or looking within. This is the ask. To get answers to the big questions we have to learn to get quiet. 

Listen

Then comes the practice of listening. Wisdom tends to be a whisper, so we have to learn to lean in. And this is important, because there’s alot of noise bouncing around in our head’s. Noise meaning we live in a world of information, advice, and agendas, and that includes our own internal judgement and expectations. Most of what’s in our head’s wasn’t consciously put there, it was swallowed. So the discipline of turning inwards and fine tuning is important. It helps us filter out the noise but also connect to truer source of guidance. Inner guidance.

Adapt

Once we’ve made a connection, we then have to make adjustments. Many of our decisions in life are based on assumptions drawn from information.  So adaptation a key step. Without the adjustment, we’re like planes stuck perpetually circling the airport.

Give it away

Finally, the last step is take what we’ve learned through the process and then share it with the world. This is the critical leap where a genuine contribution is made.

Now this process and steps are the same for those who live in service. The big difference, of course, is that they focus on helping others first. Or in other words, they start by turning their attention outward. When a person serves others, they work their way from the outside world in. So, instead of turning inward to ask as a first step, they ask the world, etc. In today’s business cultures the lingo is “value-driven.” Business, on the grand stage, sets up systems that operate in this way. They automate this process.

So, when you see the similarities, progress becomes less about which way or path you choose. And even less about what you set out to achieve. Progress becomes more about maintaining integrity in the process. Integrity, at least in the way I’m using it, simply means we embrace change. There’s no longer a need for a destination or end goal. It’s an adventure where direction is offered along way. So I see integrity as this art of maintaining a vision without boundaries. The vision is only realized when we accept input along the way. Integrity is the grace in which we handle this middle ground and change. Man, have I had some learning to do around this.

So, no matter your preferred path, if you learn to see life as an invitation to create a healthy conversation, things get better.  Life is a good chat, or can be. The moment we stop listening is the signal we’re headed for trouble. Grace disappears, and things get sticky when we end up there.

I’m a huge fan of Glennon Doyle. Here’s a woman who for 10 years hid herself in a closet at 4:00 am to find the time and space to write. She began with a simple dream, an honest, heart-felt intention to reach out and touch the world. And she did! She started a truly magical conversation through her blog and then books. But then she remained open to continuing the conversation along the way. She shared her changes out loud because she made a commitment to not hide from life. Then later, when she decided to divorce her husband and then remarry another woman, despite being touted as an acclaimed “relationship expert,” she maintained her integrity. How?… She walked the narrow path. She didn’t listen to the noise and advice of those with agendas. She exercised her integrity. The art of integrity comes with knowing where you’re headed, and accepting direction along the way. The direction she accepted, of course, came when she learned to listen to life. She’s mastered the art of the conversation. Here’s a great article where Glennon talks through her decision to walk away from her marriage.

So, I guess I’d end by saying we’ve all been tasked with discovering a new way in life. We can call this “our way.” Whether we like it or not, there’s no way around the fact that we will create something brand new. The life you live will never be repeated again. Learning to celebrate this by staying open to change and embracing the process is a powerful thing. You’ll inherit a life filled with integrity and grace. Just keep the conversation going!

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Crush It Vs Create It

What do you think?… Is life isn’t about taking, crushing, mincing, dicing, destroying, and conquering?

Or is life about learning how to participate? Challenges, as difficult as they may be, ultimately provide an opportunity to learn how to become better collaborators with life. And collaboration doesn’t work all too well when we’re crushing and competing. It’s a CREATORS game.

Creation takes a ton of work. The demands are high. The requirements placed on those who desire to make a mark as creators are high. That’s why so many try the easy way – by taking, destroying, conquering, etc. To become a CREATOR you must learn how to reach and share value. Value is within – and there’s no forcing it out. The “IT” of course is your PURPOSE. Your passion. The unique dream that only you can realize, create, and share with the world. It’s something the world desperately needs.

So before stepping outside into the world at the start of your day, ask yourself “How can I honor life today by sharing my best me? 

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Stop Waiting.

The time is always now!

For what, you ask?…

Happiness and fulfillment! Millions, perhaps billions have missed out because of a misunderstanding on where the opportunity is. And many more left earth without understanding this one key concept. They expected that tomorrow would happen and that the pains and fears of their yesterday’s would suddenly and magically clear up. But procrastination, they discovered, is a lie and destroyer of dreams, lives, and futures.

Peace, joy, love, fulfillment, abundance, and happiness all live in the NOW! This truth is easily observable. Study the lives of successful people, anywhere- from great business leaders, standout achievers, world-class creators, and spiritual masters. Here’s what you’ll discover. They ALL take advantage of the present moment. They live there. They act now.  And much of what they strive to do is focused on improving the effectiveness and quality of their connection to the present moment. Why?… Because opportunity lives there.

The next move. The right investment. Peace. Enlightenment. It’s all there.

They know the wellspring of meaning, success, and abundance is the present moment. So if you have a dream, goal, or vision for your success and happiness and are not acting on it- get started. NOW! If you’re afraid to leap, that’s ok. Just simply take a step. Any step, even a baby step. What’s important is that you move forward. You’re willingness to act NOW is what matters. This starts the process to unleash the magic and power of the present moment! 

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Amazing Outside, Amazing Inside Too

Why is it so easy to be amazed by the beauty outside of ourselves and not see it within?…

Think of the last time you looked at a mountain, coastline, or bird in flight and thought, “that’s just not right.”

Likely that hasn’t happened. If it has, oh well. Move along to the next article.  

The reason that doesn’t happen is it’s obvious that nature doesn’t make mistakes. But why are we’re so quick to exclude ourselves from that mix? We are also a part of nature!  We are packed full of amazing just like everything else we see in life. Granting ourselves this simple yet important courtesy is a powerfully positive act. If we refuse to do it, we deny our very nature.  And then we suffer.  

So do yourself a favor. If you are judging yourself, stop. If you’re telling yourself that you’re somehow uniquely flawed, broken, or incapable, STOP.  You are not.  You are exactly who and what you’re supposed to be. Start giving yourself the credit you deserve. You are a truly remarkable being.  You and I have been granted a gift that separates us from the rest of the animal kingdom (or so it seems). We are able to see and acknowledge the beauty of all things! In case you missed it, that’s sorta a rarity!

So the next time you pause to take in a mind blowing sunset, a picture-perfect landscape, or any other of the billions of miracles of life, save some awe and wonderment for yourself!

Amazing outside, amazing inside too!

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Jump. Today and Everday

Every day we have to jump.

But who do we jump for? And why? For whom do you take the risk?

Questions like these can help blow through the barriers and fears that comes with taking risks for ourselves in life. There are risks, always, but the reality is that we take risks daily for others that don’t benefit us at all. The safety we like to imagine comes from depending on others is an illusion keep us from taking any true risk. We are equally susceptible to loss and failure living to build some one else’s dream. But the real risk comes in living out a life where we have cheated ourselves of our dreams and growth because of our FEAR of FEAR itself.

Jump today folks. Jump!

 

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