In the heat of the struggle all of our fears, anxieties, and judgments come out. This heat can become a fire of great transformation in which we rise to forge a new vision for our Self and life journey. We may have to revisit our wants and desires and address the barriers standing in the way. Within this process of re-visioning our life we will discover an infinite number of variables that are entirely outside of our control. But creating a new vision is like investing in a dream. It requires that we take incredible risks and commit anyway. We have to be able to two things well here, and that’s both let go of the life we lived, surrendering, and forgiving ourselves and others along the way; AND leap courageously into a yawning unknown. This freaky space is the space where our miracle is waiting to be born. While we can’t control everything, we can change the entire dynamic of our life by stepping boldly into the unknown naked and propelled by our truth. Here we’re able to align with the forces working for our highest good. We can attract that which is truly meant for us. We embody the miracle, and buzz with its magical wiggly stuff. It’s more that we become more of what’s needed to align with our heart’s deepest desires. We’re free to be. But when we’re facing difficulties it may be hard to stay in the miracle. We must learn to manage all the pain that’s attached to old wounds, unfit beliefs, and crappy messages. But this too is a gift as through the struggle we get the opportunity to face and set our limitations free- forever.
So, know if you’re in a struggle today, I’m sending you love and light. Breath through the struggle, like literally, and by seeing the good beyond it. Remind yourself that you are in a sacred space of renewal. And know that somewhere on the other side your miracle is waiting to give you a great big bear hug!
This is also the gift, however, as we’re left standing naked before our reality. In this space we can touch the truth of what is, breath it in and grow in a space of acceptance. Or we can run from it by falling into the trap of old ways of thinking and being, perhaps by denying or leaping to escape in busyness or another false message. Letting go forces us to see things as they are, not as we wish nor as we’d planned. This is powerful magic because it gives us the opportunity to slough off the false beliefs and messages and expectations we’d attached to; perhaps picked up from the world, the media, our jobs, or the agendas represented by those we surround ourselves with. We stand in the clear light of truth. If we can do this honestly we can set the stage for powerful rediscovery. We can look at where our life has led us and redefine the sense of purpose that got us there. I use “redefine” here loosely, as purpose doesn’t change, per se, we don’t hack at it and bend it. We just get a more honest space to reunite or rediscover the truth that’s always been there. It’s like life gives us this window to experience who we are and what drives us more deeply. Purpose is a personal expression of a universal truth. From here we can begin again, and step forward with the energy available to a life grounded in purpose and truth.
I sat with this one for awhile before I pushed go.
I think one of the harder steps I’ve had to take in my own life journey is to learn to let go. Every bone in my body vibrates saying, “help others, serve, share,and hold the light up!” And if they can’t do it for themselves, do it for them!” Probably because I’ve felt this need to have a rescuer so powerfully too. However I’ve come to see it’s not my job to do that for others. As a partner, healer, Creator, and human being. My job is to do my damnedest to hold the right space for others to discover who they want to be. Letting go of the idea that others are helpless to create the change they need is an act of respect. By doing so I honor the Creator within myself and them. So, in a sense, letting go is a sacred agreement. It’s the space where allow the possibility for healing and a real collaboration can begin.
When we meet as equals we are within our strength. We open to the gate for re-connection, new adventures, and the dance of love to grow -if it’s meant to be. We can learn, listen, prepare, and then leap into the changes that are needed. If no change can be made, we respect that too. Why? Because allowing is the space where true love grows. And all souls are here to grow.
So practice the art of just being today. And let others be as well. And do you best to hold a space of love and respect.
Life is full of stuff that stresses us out. Unexpected challenges, surprises, fantastic wipe-outs, and the recoveries that follow. But a problem in itself is nothing but a perception. It’s not reality. In Tibetan Buddhism they refer to the forces and patterns of challenges that cycle in and out of our lives as Karma. In truth there’s only life, the light, and the love that holds it all together. Problems are the funky illusions we create around what’s happening around us. But illusions or not, we can add weight to our problems when we REACT. By reacting we feed our illusions with our powerful and sacred emotional energy. Imagine reactions like junk food for our hungry illusions. They’re BigMacs for the Problem Gremlins we carry around in our minds. A reaction works to charge up our problems up with a melange of intense thoughts, feelings and beliefs that prop us the idea that our problems are real. In other words, reactions make miserable fast. Life can get really messy the longer we feed into our illusions like this. Once our Problem Gremlins take the helm of our lives they can drive us down the rabbit hole, so to speak.Fear, stress, anxiety, and loads of other junk get piled on. This tangle of emotional energy can pull us like an anchor into ever deeper levels of anxiety and challenge. It’s a horribly destructive cycle we can get caught in.
So what’s the way out?… No matter how big or small your perceived problems or challenges, you have to learn to dissolve the emotional energy that feeds them. We do that by learning to respond rather than react. Reactions are like power pellets for our Problem Gremlins. And those wired little goofs will work tirelessly to keep our insecurities and false beliefs alive. A powerful way to starve out a gaggle of Problem Gremlins is to feed them the good food known as gratitude.
Why does this work?… When we change our perspective our experience changes along with it. Imagine a sad gremlin packing it’s gym bag and walking out the door.
So it doesn’t matter if you’re feeling powerless, overwhelmed, desperate, sad, lost, or lonely the answer is exercise gratitude. You ever wonder why all the Buddha statues have smiles on their faces?… It’s because freedom starts with gratitude. Now, notice I’m used the word exercise here. For those of you who exercise, you know it ain’t always fun or easy. To be clear, you likely won’t feel like exercising gratitude at all because you’re in the toilet of a crappy experience. Just hold a space for gratitude. This means you intentionally exercise the muscle. Perhaps you visualize all that your grateful for, or read from a list aloud, or you outright pretend. For example you might say,”I’m grateful that I have a heartbeat today, and the sky’s blue, and my favorite brand of frozen pizza was on sale at the grocery store.” Or if you’re really in the grips of a mighty crap-storm, “I’m grateful that I have the grit to remind myself to be grateful.” Just exercise the choice. The choice to think differently is the game changer, because you’ve chosen to shift your identify away from the problem. This is an awareness move and the Universe rewards those. The Problem Gremlins are thinking “oh crap” when you do this, because they know they’re not going get fed anymore. Once you exercise gratitude take the next step to feel grateful. Hold onto a vision of all that’s good in the world and going to be good in your life, and really get into that nitty gritty of that vision. Feel it bubble up. If you can’t feel it, no big deal, keep going and do the best you can. If you really want to Judo chop the shizmo out of your problems, exercise gratitude for the storm you find yourself in, for all storms have powerful lessons to teach. And storms are custom made for the powerful. But above all be kind to yourself! Hold yourself in the highest light and try to do the same for others. If you’re scrambling, struggling, or feel like you’re Gremlins are hijacking your everything, don’t feed into it. It’s ok not to be a master operator every time around. By responding you will reduce the power of your reactions and the emotional charge that perpetuates old patterns over time. Eventually this will all get easier. The truth is these storms are there for you to get a closer look at your divine nature. Storms are there as reminders to step into your light!